Howard Stern claims he is seeking psychological treatment for an addiction, the addiction to attention, otherwise known as egomania or more commonly referred to as, Narcissism or Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).
new book, Howard Stern Comes Again, Stern claims that one of his
biggest regrets is not being able to apologize to Robin Williams for his
narcissistic comments during Stern’s interview with the actor, comedian. Stern
says, “I would say to him, I’m sorry because I am such a huge fan and you
didn’t even know that.” Even Stern’s apology is self-focused. Stern’s emphasis
is on Williams’s lack of knowing that he, Stern, is a huge fan – rather than
Stern being primarily concerned about William’s feelings. My point is that NPD
is a very tricky disorder. The delivery of narcissistic messages is confusing
at best, and will always have double meanings – which actually allows the
narcissist to manipulate the listener in any way that will serve them. NPD is a
personality disorder which has to do with the hard-wiring of the brain. It
would be like trying to teach a computer how to love. You cannot.
being said, the good news is that Stern is going to therapy, owning his
behavior and understanding its effect on others is a good start. He will always
have a narcissistic knee jerk reaction to others, but if he can self-actualize
his behavior and reevaluate it in the moment there is a good chance he may be
able to keep it under control. Can he change? Well we certainly know that he
can become aware – it will be a struggle for him – but constant therapy
with a clinician who specializes in Narcissistic Personality Disorder will be
necessary for the rest of Stern’s life.